Mixed signals
I've never written about this on the blog before, but I need a means to vent. Understandably, very few of you will understand the referee culture, but I'll do my best to explain.
As some of you may know, I work as a referee for youth soccer games in my area. I've been a ref for 5 years now, and attend a mandatory 6-hour recertification class every year. Originally, I started out doing low-level, recreational games in my hometown. In these games, there's no serious physical play, only two members of any given team are any good, and the coaches have absolutely no clue what they're doing (okay, the last one is true for all coaches :-P).
In the past year I've started officiating for traveling soccer clubs in the area. These are real games. The kids all know which direction to kick the ball, the coaches are certified as such, and the games are much better. While they can sometimes be very taxing physically, especially if I have several games back-to-back on a given day, I prefer them to the recreational games for one reason: they don't bore me. Oh, and they pay better.
It's important to point out that each league is independent of one another, although they are all loosely affiliated with national and state organizations. The slight exception is that some of the rec coaches are also coaches of my town's club teams, so I interact with them frequently outside of the recreational league.
But anyway, back to the recreational, park district league I work for in my hometown. As I said, the games are frequently very boring. However, with nothing else to do on a Saturday morning, why not get paid good money ($20-25/hour) to stand around and exert your authority?
Now, I could spend a whole post talking about some of the, er... lackluster referees in my town. In fact, I'll add that to my list of topics to write about later. Let's just say that many of the people I frequently work with--most soccer games are refereed by a three-man team: one center official (in charge) and two linesmen (assistants)--are not very um, good. They couldn't tell you the difference between a foul and misconduct, they're afraid to make controversial calls, and they don't take well to criticism. In general, they don't take their job seriously. I've seen referees in this league answer their cell phones while they're on the field. If you take away one piece of soccer knowledge from this post, know that a referee answering his cell phone in the middle of officiating a game is absolutely ridiculous, unprofessional, unheard-of, and wrong. One of my assistants (a kid a few years younger than me that I've known for years) during a game I did last Saturday accused me of taking my job too seriously. Let me tell you something: when you're a soccer referee, there is no such thing as taking your job too seriously. Referees are responsible for upholding the integrity of the game they are tasking with officiating and the sport of soccer in general. You shouldn't be okay with screwing that up.
Back on topic (here's where I get pretty heavy into the soccer lingo): with the exception of the stated rules of the league as well as the notion that this is a learning environment for kids, I apply the same Laws of the Game (LOTG) and standards of behavior to the recreational league that I do for "real" games. I don't take crap from coaches or players on the field. 95% of the time in the local league, this isn't a problem. But occasionally, mostly in the highest-age division in the rec league, coaches have a problem with the way I run things. One example: there was a coach several weeks ago who started arguing with me about my calls in the middle of a game. He was getting pretty vocal, and it was impeding my ability to do the game.
Allow me to interrupt to explain some soccer stuff: a yellow card ("caution") is shown to players who (among other things) show dissent towards my calls. A red card ("send-off") is shown if they (among other things) get two yellow cards or do other serious, violent acts. The rules of "real" soccer permit coaches to be verbally cautioned and/or sent-off, but we don't show them a card. However, the local league states that referees are to show coaches the card if they receive one. Good link for more info on cards: http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Soccer-Referee-Signals
Back to this coach: I had stopped the game to talk to him twice already, and he was getting on my nerves, so I gave him a yellow card for dissent. Let me reiterate that cards are pretty much unheard of in this league. It's low-level play, and coaches generally know their place. I probably gave more cards just this past weekend (7) doing club games than the entire league got all season. This past season in the rec league, I gave a total of 3 cards (that I can remember): two send-offs for abusive language and a yellow card to this coach. And I've "stirred up trouble" on two other occasions this season. Once, I took issue with a spectator smoking on the sidelines during a game of 4th- and 5th-graders. He refused to leave until I got the coaches to go over there and handle it. One of the coaches later told me he "disagreed with the way I handled it." The other time, I sent a report to the league about one of the coaches who was yelling pretty profanely at his kids (also a game of 4th- and 5th-graders) and did some other questionable activities on the field.
Ugh. All this background for a tiny bit of actual content. Anyway, let it be said that I've probably raised quite a bit of hell in this small-town, recreational soccer league. At least, compared to any other referee. I know for a fact they've discussed my actions at the weekly board meetings several times. But let it also be said, I am not without my supporters on the board. It is my understanding that the board president and his assistant coach (also on the board), who are coaches for both a recreational team and a club team in my town, think I'm a decent ref. The aforementioned assistant coach actually came up to me recently (after the below-described events) and told me he thinks I'm the "finest referee they have" in my town. But there are several board members (who also coach) and non-board-member coaches who think I am "cocky" with players (according to one of the referee directors who sits on the board). Case one: the board secretary coaches a club team of very young players. This lends credence to the fact that his kids aren't top-notch players, just like every other nine-year-old boy. I only did one game of his this season (a club game). It was 40 degrees out, it was nighttime, I was given no assistants, and the field was in pretty poor condition. Needless to say, even I'll admit I didn't call a perfect game, but I think I did a damn good job considering the circumstances. He, however, sends a scathing e-mail to the referee director for the local league (remember: the leagues are completely independent) saying how bad of a job I did.
Case two: one of the local league's board members is an assistant coach for a U12 boys club team. Now, this particular team is pretty physical, especially considering their relatively young age. The first game I did for them this season, I cautioned 5 players. This assistant coach wasn't at the first game I did for the team, but prior to the start of the second game I did for them, he pulled me aside and told me (in no uncertain terms) that I shouldn't be giving yellow cards at this age. I disagreed, explaining that his team's level of physical play was unacceptable. During that game, I cautioned one of his players for telling me to "get my glasses checked" after I made a call. Dissent, plain and clear, even disregarding earlier comments from this player. The coach erupted at me, yelling that "we had an understanding" that I was not to give any yellow cards. I ignored him, although I very well could have sent him off considering the language he used towards me. As I said, he sits on the board of the local league, so I'm sure he's ranted about me to the local league too.
One of the two referee directors in the local league mentioned to me on the last day of the local season that they had received 3-4 complaints about me from coaches. He said specific complaints were "too many yellow cards" and being "cocky" with players. As I said, I gave one yellow card the entire season in the local league, but some of the coaches from club teams sit on the local board, so I'm sure signals are getting crossed there. He also questioned the yellow card I gave to the coach in the local league.
I should mention that I never heard any of this from the other referee director (the head one), which kinda put me off. Either she disregarded it, or didn't feel the need to tell me.
Fast-forward to a tournament sponsored by the local league a week later. I issue a yellow card to a player (whose family is very prominent in the local league) for dissent. I put it out of my mind-- I was completely justified and I knew it. The same referee director who told me to be conservative about my yellow cards questioned the earlier card as I was finishing up for the day. That really put me off. The guy is a good referee, no doubt about it. And technically, he is my boss, although in the referee culture it's not really thought of that way. But when he starts questioning my authority to use cards as I see fit (which I personally rarely do in the local league), I don't take kindly to that. And the tournament itself was a separate entity from the local league-- higher-level play.
Anyway... what I'm trying to say with this massive post is that I have been slightly turned off to this local league. Several board members are apparently questioning my actions on the field outside of their jurisdiction, and one of the referee directors himself is telling me not to use cards in the local league--which I generally don't do anyway. If they want to ostracize me from games in the league, that's fine. I'm at the point where I am dividing my time for several different leagues, most of which have games that, frankly, aren't boring. I'm starting work for an indoor league shortly that will run until April in a pseudo-managerial position that pays very handsomely. For the first several years of my being a referee, I relied on this local league as my sole source of ref income. Quite frankly, I can do without them now. This past season, I got anywhere from 3-5 games a week. I'd be happy with less next season. Less stress for me--in a small town that has a problem with referees who are sure of themselves on the field.
If I sound cocky, or by some coincidence a board member from the local league finds this, so be it. I have a high level of respect for most of the coaches and directors in the local league, but all I'm asking is that I not be second-guessed. It's no secret in the referee community that coaches generally don't know what they're talking about (we're only half-joking when we say this). And don't get me wrong, I'll be happy to work for your league, but only if you want me to. My only concern is that I hope I'm not asking for too much when I say I dislike conversation going over my head regarding my calls.




